BS: How easily are you embarrassed?

Subject: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: the lemonade lady
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 09:05 AM

At my age it takes quite a lot to make me feel small and silly... but yesterday I was in the public library playing with a PC. I'd finished checking my E mails and decided to click a few things on the desk top. Up jumped a full screen of a sexy blonde, doing things that we females know you guys like. Wooo Hooo! Next to me, very close to me, were two 16 year old boys, eyes on stalks and me franticly trying to click the 'x' to get rid of it. Would it go? Nope! They offered loads of advice and eventually it shrank!!! So did I and left, scarlet faced and laughing!

Been there, done that?

Sal

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Rapparee
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 09:12 AM

Did you report it to someone at the library? Libraries really, really frown on people leaving such things on the screen, and especially if there are underage folks around. It shouldn't have happened.

Being the director of a public library myself, I'd like it if we were informed about such a thing so that we could deal with the person who caused it. (You know, the usual library sort of thing: a guy named Vinnie, a ball bat, the offender's knees....)

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Sam L
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 09:19 AM

I think people are embarrassed by different things. Little things embarrass me, because I haven't bothered to steel myself, not to be embarrassed by them. I've decided not to be embarrassed by not having much money, for example, but I'd be embarrassed having porn stuff on my screen at the library.

    I'm mortified and haunted in perpetuity when I say something thoughtless, or something like that.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Sorcha
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 09:21 AM

I would have very angry about it, not embarassed. I certainly would have reported it, and if it wouldn't x out, I would have killed the monitor until some Library person could get there. There are innoucuous sites that will set porn pop ups--been there, done that here at home.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Kim C
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 12:33 PM

I don't care for it when Mister makes fart jokes in front of our friends. But I think that's just the way guys are made...

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: the lemonade lady
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 01:04 PM

??? 'Mister makes fart jokes '...'innoucuous pop-ups'!!!

Children are like farts, One doesn't mind One's own, but One's not that keen on other peoples!

Actually I quite like looking at the porn sites,(you're never too old to learn)(and if anyone mentions 'teaching an old dog' ...grrr) but honest, this time it wasn't me, I keep that to my own Personal Computer at home.

#>8-D

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: katlaughing
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 01:06 PM

Ms. Lemon, go see Rapaire's "what would you do?" thread. Most interesting in light of your own experience.

FWIW, I agree with Sorcha, I would have reported it to the librarian.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Beccy
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 01:12 PM

Well, let's see. Last month, while waiting for my prenatal checkup, my five year old sweetly looked at a nice lady sitting next to me and said, "Excuse me, ma'am... but why do you have a moustache?"
This was followed up by me turning full around, as I was sitting between him and her, and making sure he got a "death-look" that the poor woman couldn't see.
Fast forward 1/2 an hour...
Walking through K-Mart with my sons, my 3 year old notices a young lady wearing very tight pants walking past us. My baby boy, in his bionic whisper, said, "MOMMY- LOOK AT HER BOTTOM."

Oh boy- I never thought I was easily embarassed until I had kids.

Beccy

BTW- I'd have reported it to the librarian after yanking the monitor out of the wall- chances are, if I was checking email in the library, my kids would've been in my lap.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Deckman
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 01:33 PM

I'm finding this thread interesting. I think what we have going on here is really a question of public morality vs private morality. Bob

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: GUEST
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 01:36 PM

I thought it was going to be about a Python sketch:

Are you embarrassed? I am. Never mind, its all part of being British and growing up.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Kim C
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 01:37 PM

It seems like... I can't remember exactly, because I don't use the library computers... it seems like here in Tennessee, there are no restrictions on what people can view on a public library computer. Something about free speech and all that... plus, I believe individual users can set the filters on their browser. Now, granted, I don't believe it's a good idea to just let everyone run wild on the Net in the library with wee ones running around - but I'm not sure how to get around it.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Sorcha
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 01:52 PM

When I was younger, Mr. told all his cop friends (in front of me) what happens when you have sex after making hot sauce. Yes, I was embarassed then. Now I wouldn't be.

When son was about 3 we had been living in Wyoming for two and a half years. Not too many black people here and he had never seen oe. We're bopping through the mall in Wichita, KS and here comes a 'pimp'. 6' tall, black as the ace of spades, platform shoes, dressed in neon green, orange a purple. I just gave him a glance, but Luke stops dead in the water and says loudly "Mommie, what the hail is THAT?" Embarassed, no, terrifed yes.

Now, not much of anything embarasses me. I'll say anything to anybody, just about.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Deckman
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 02:21 PM

I think a very telling aspect of your sense of embarrasment involves just WHAT embarreses you. For example, when my cousin in Finland chastises me for my poor Finnish grammer, I feel VERY embarassed. I dirty joke, not likely unless it's told poorly! Get my point? Bob

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Sam L
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 04:07 PM

I just wish they'd kept the card catalogues, though I know keeping up with 2 systems is impractical. But here they don't have enough separate screens just to look up books, porn or not.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: McGrath of Harlow
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 06:14 PM

I can't see anything "impractical" about keeping up two systems in parallel. Takes a little more work, which isn't the same thing at all.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Rapparee
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 06:58 PM

I certainly can! "A little more work": filing in a card catalog involves several things, not the least of which is the production of the catalog cards. Even if these are computer-generated, they have to be alphabetized (probably by hand), filed in the catalog "above the rod" so that they stand out to be checked for filing accuracy, and then "dropped" after they have been checked and any errors corrected.

That's the simple way. If it's a split catalog -- authors, titles, and subjects could each be in a seperate catalog -- the cards are split into three groups, each of which has to be alphabetized and filed.

The filing rules are complex. For a simple example, for a title the initial articles -- the, a, and an in English -- are ignored and the filing done by the first "significant" word of the title. Again, this seems simple, but the same rule holds for ALL initial articles, no matter the language. Which means initial articles in Urdu, Romanian, Russian, Ukranian, German, Spanish, Portugese, Gaelic, Mandarian.... And libraries might very well have books in these languages and more.

Want to talk about authors? Personal authors? Like Vincent van Gogh? Well, does he file under van Gogh, Vincent or Gogh, Vincent van? What about my friend James Muirhead Gould? Is the author "IBM" or "International Business Machine Corporation?"

Uniform titles, like "Bible. OT. Leviticus." have their own rules, too. (My personal favorite is "Bible. Red letter. Mainz. 1456." but the Library of Congress won't send it on interlibrary loan.)

Let's not even discuss analytics, see and see also references, subject headings, and corporate and personal added entries. Or performer added entries. Or added entries for contents.

Back before the computer I once cataloged an opera. Strictly by the book. There were one hundred and four (104) cards to file. Doing this accurately in a small library took over half an hour.

The computer allows ALL fields in a record to be searched, if such is wanted. It frees staff to be librarians instead of filing clerks. The catalog record is available to the user almost at once, instead of several days or weeks later as with the card catalog. The facts that it's lots cheaper and is more accurate are also quite important.

Oh, yeah -- did I mention that when a book is destroyed, lost, or otherwise no longer available, all of the catalog cards you so painstakingly filed have to be removed???? By hand???

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Cluin
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 07:08 PM

I'm not too easily embarrassed. How can I be?

This just went up in my town.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Sorcha
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 07:28 PM

That's funny, Clu!

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Bill D
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 07:43 PM

why is it-- that it is ok to go to a farm and SEE a Bull or cow (that 3rd pic is NOT a cow), but a representation of a bull or cow should be censored? Children have always asked why their dolls didn't look like THEY did. And when some makers created dolls that were anatomically correct, some people were offended.

-sigh- *remembering that we once covered piano legs*

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Rapparee
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 08:23 PM

For the same reason some folks complained when the book "In The Night Kitchen" was published.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Sorcha
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 08:49 PM

I have a question about embarassment/indecent exposure/male-female. In the mainstream North American culture mens breasts and nipples have most always been acceptable but not women's. Women get arrested for exposing theirs in public. Now, if a woman has had a double radical mastectomy and has NO breasts or nipples, can she take off her shirt if she wants? I am SURE someone would be offended (SomeOne always is about everything) but would it be illegal?

Then, of course, there is the Thing in 'Our Society' about covering up scars to be 'beautiful'. Just my Dumb Question for the Day.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Bill D
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 09:00 PM

yeah, Sorcha, it don't make much sense, hmmm? We are dealing with societal standards that are often vague and related to religion as well as cultural history. I wonder sometimes if we don't promote 'modesty' so that we will not become jaded. There are layers & layers of 'stuff' in folks heads that affect how they view their own and others bodies....

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Deckman
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 09:18 PM

Don't forget this ... everyone is a born nudist! Bob

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Bill D
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 10:40 PM

big difference between 'born nude' and 'born nudist', Bob..*grin*....

I have friends I'd swear must have been born with hands covering their privates, and if it weren't for the need to bathe, I don't think they'd ever undress!

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Amos
Date: 09 Jul 03 - 10:57 PM

Those bovines look about normal, so I don't get the big issue. Maybe it's a sorta Victorian virtue that letting them exist in nature is honoring God's handiwork, so to speak, but making such things in works of art is glorifying the objects -- and their function -- which is obviously a Satanic thing to do. Dear holy hopping Hannah, these people do generate complexities, don't they?

A

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Cluin
Date: 10 Jul 03 - 01:56 AM

Hell, Amos, that ugly thing's over 20 feet tall! Vic Fremlin, the guy responsible for it is "weel kent" round these parts for his bad taste.

I don't have a problem with it's being anatomically correct. It's just friggin' goofy is all. And he's planning to add a 3rd cow to it because, according to him, you never see cows in pairs, but always in threes. ("Menage au lait"?) And apparently, he thinks bulls hold cows up on their shoulders like they're at a Rolling stones concert, so they can flash their udders and threaten people with a large milk can. "Whoo Hoo!"

Actually, Vic does have another portable lifesize statue of a Holstein with a banner for his dairy's logo hung over it like an oversize saddle blanket. He calls it Elsie, but spells it L.C., which is short for Lock City, the name of his dairy. (I told yiz, he's tasteless). At a Canada Day celebration a buddy and I were playing at in the big tent here, a couple years ago, we had to share the stage with the fornicating thing, since he was sponsoring part of the event. It was between us and slightly to the rear, so we introduced her as a third member of the band: "This is Elsie, folks. She doesn't play an instrument and can't sing either, but she does buy the drinks, so we keep her around". Even the kids laughed at that one.

Embarrassed? Not me.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: the lemonade lady
Date: 10 Jul 03 - 06:06 AM

Ok I've reported it to 'em.

Sal

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Linda Kelly
Date: 10 Jul 03 - 08:24 AM

I recommend several stays in an NHS gyneacological ward. You will have enured so much by the end of it -you will never be embarassed again!

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Rapparee
Date: 10 Jul 03 - 08:50 AM

Scars are badges of honor, they show you survived. I can't understand why anywone should be embarassed by that.

Mind you, the culture of No. America is such that perfect bodies are revered, especially if they are young. Let's face it, there are powerfully few sitcom stars on TV who are confined to a wheelchair (as an example). All too often the shows that do feature such a person show them as an angry, frustrated individual who only come to grips with the situation when a perfect person shows The Way The Happiness.

But as for me and embarassment: not really, except when I'm being given something.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: the lemonade lady
Date: 10 Jul 03 - 10:54 AM

'I recommend several stays in an NHS gyneacological ward'... Been there, done that. That'll account for me being so tuf (not).

'Scars are badges of honor, they show you survived. I can't understand why anywone should be embarassed by that.'
... isn't that a quote from Shirley Valentine?

Sal

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Kim C
Date: 10 Jul 03 - 11:48 AM

Holy Cow! Doesn't everyone know that bulls have man-parts too?

Moooooooo!

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Rapparee
Date: 10 Jul 03 - 12:54 PM

Not that I know of. I thought I'd made it up this morning when I replied.

See, when she was 17 my wife had thyroid cancer.... She's spent the more than twice that number of years with her throat scarred from a radical dissection of the neck, done in conjunction with the thyroid- and parathyroidectomies done to cure her. And while she can't yell because of the surgery, she can sure blister paint when she's mad.

Scars of badges of honor.

(Now, I have this one above my eyebrow, see, where my mother dropped me on my head. True. Some say that it explains so much.)

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: gnu
Date: 29 Mar 13 - 02:19 PM

The OP nailed it! I was just at mum's showing her a clip of Cedar Waxwings in her apple tree from a video I took about 5 years ago and just edited. I of... sometimes like to gaze upon pictures of naked ladies on the internut, preferably tasteful pics in which the subject is smiling and has that gleam of fun in their eyes. I have saved maybe a half dozen pics in 15 years and I saved one such pic about a month ago. Even sent it to some close friends. The reason?... the most stunning blue eyes I have ever seen. As if they were photoshopped (right word?) and enhanced by some magic.

Well, WIN 8 is new to me and this pic got placed in a new folder... blah, blah, blah... guess what appeared on the screen when I tried to show her pics of a robin eating apples in her tree in winter. The new pic viewing app kicked in and up came Blue Eyes for a few seconds. The ensuing conversation could have awkward as well as embarrassing if I had been embarrassed. I was, however, taken aback and immediately said, "What the hell is that about!" Mum said, "Apparently you look at lots of things on the internet." I replied "Yeah, I do but why did Windows 8 show that to my mother? God damned Bill Gates!"

You might say WIN8 kicked me in the APP.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Jack the Sailor
Date: 29 Mar 13 - 02:41 PM

"why is it-- that it is ok to go to a farm and SEE a Bull or cow (that 3rd pic is NOT a cow), but a representation of a bull or cow should be censored?" I think it may be a matter of public display. You think it would be acceptable to have real cattle up on those poles exposing their udders and such. ;-)

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: GUEST,Eliza
Date: 29 Mar 13 - 03:15 PM

It wasn't exactly myself that was embarrassed, but a priest. I was a visitor at a Roman Catholic Mass years ago and the rather plump priest genuflected with great reverence and an enormously loud fart rang out. He was as red as a beetroot poor soul, embarrassment wasn't the word. The rest of us smothered giggles for the whole of the Mass I'm afraid.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Ed T
Date: 29 Mar 13 - 03:38 PM

Oddly as it may seem, one of the few things that tends to embarass me is a compliment made to me in public. Never figured out just what the source is, but I have tried to avoid situations that would involve this type of focus omn me throughout my work and personal life. I recognize that my situation is likely an anomoly, as I have observed that many people seem to enjoy, and even seek out, public recognition of this sort.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: GUEST,Eliza
Date: 29 Mar 13 - 03:58 PM

Interesting EdT. I personally admire humility such as yours. There are indeed far too many people seeking the limelight and fishing for compliments especially 'celebrities' on TV. My Retirement 'do' was excruciating for the same reason; I nearly curled up and died during the speeches. Such relief when the wine was served and we got on with the fun!

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Bill D
Date: 29 Mar 13 - 11:22 PM

Well.. 10 years after this thread happened, there are STILL complaints when women try to nurse a baby in 'public'...usually pretty discreetly.

What is amazing to me is that the pics of the cow and bull are still up after 10 years.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: GUEST,Eliza
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 07:03 AM

If folk object to breastfeeding in public, they'd better not go anywhere in Africa.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Will Fly
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 07:20 AM

One day, in the reign of Queen Elizabeth the First, a courtier knelt down at court to pay his respects to his monarch. As he bent over, a loud fart emanated from his fundament.

Mortified beyond words, the courtier ran from the court, fled the country and lived for many years abroad, in shy seclusion. After some years, he decided that the incident had probably passed out of memory, and so he decided to return to England and the court once more.

H entered the palace and bowed to the Queen, who took his hand and said, with a gracious smile, "Welcome, my lord - We had forgot the fart."

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Mrrzy
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 01:14 PM

Not.

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Will Fly
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 02:01 PM

Exactly! :-)

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: GUEST,Chongo Chimp
Date: 30 Mar 13 - 02:12 PM

Embarrassed? Easily? Not me. Nope, I am not embarrassed easily at all. Trust me. A lotta people and a few gorillas and other misguided primates been tryin' to embarrass me for years and years, but without success. To embarrass me is about as easy as gettin' an elephant to climb a swingin' rope ladder. Try it. You'll see. I don't do embarrassment.

- Chongo

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: the lemonade lady
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 05:23 PM

I've changed a lot in the 10 years since I started this thread. For those who know me, you'll know what's happened, and I'm not easily embarrassed anymore.

Sal

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: frogprince
Date: 04 Apr 13 - 08:26 PM

Hmmm...did our lemonade lady become a naturist...? : )

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: GUEST,Frank
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 12:03 AM

One day, in the reign of Queen Elizabeth the Second, She was escorting the Archbishop of Canterbury around her stables.
As they passed the stall of Her favourite stallion, the stallion let rip with a loud fart.
"I do apologise" said Her Majesty highly embarrassed.
"Think nothing of it your Majesty, it is a perfectly natural bodily function. And anyway, I thought it was the horse."

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Roger the Skiffler
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 08:14 AM

If I was easily embarassed I wouldn't sing in public!

RtS

Subject: RE: BS: How easily are you embarrassed?
From: Becca72
Date: 05 Apr 13 - 09:02 AM

Frank - LOL!

I find that the older I get the more I'm the one embarrassing others.

I do have a difficult time hearing compliments and I hate to be the center of attention in most public settings, though.